Find Time Using 5 Assertiveness Training Techniques to Set Effective Boundaries
"Remember, that time is money." Benjamin Franklin.
And according to Jim Rohn, a celebrated rags-to-riches entrepreneur who came of age during the Great Depression, "Time is more valuable than money. You can get more money, but you cannot get more time."
In other words, you have just as much of life's most precious commodity as Bill Gates!
Without assertiveness, though, you often sacrifice your valuable time to others' demands. Take charge of your time and your life right now by using these 5 assertiveness training tips for setting effective boundaries.
Assertiveness Keeps Your Time Wealth in Your Hands
Assertiveness skills are an absolutely essential and often overlooked tool. You can develop clear priorities and create a great to-do list, but if you're not assertive, others can and will override your time choices. Like the kid whose lunch money is stolen by the class bully, you need to protect your time wealth in a way that keeps you in charge without needlessly antagonizing others.
Establishing and maintaining your boundaries prevents others from begging, borrowing, and bullying you to give away your time. It may feel impossible now, but with practice and determination, you will make it second nature.
Use the Following 5 Tips to Establish Assertive Boundaries Successfully:
Assertiveness Training Tip #1: You, and only you, make the choices. No matter how strong the personalities of those around you, they simply cannot take time that you don't give. Embracing this assertive truth helps you claim your power. Don't fall into the trap of judging yourself for times when you didn't set a limit. If you didn't possess the skills and overview to set boundaries without serious repercussions earlier, it's simply a matter of learning those assertiveness skills now.
Assertiveness Training Tip #2: Set the stage to assert your boundaries. Make a point of discussing things in words that are easy for others to hear, and do so at a time when they are most likely to be receptive. Maintain a pleasant and relaxed attitude. Remind yourself of your right and your responsibility to prioritize how you use your time.
Assertiveness Training Tip #3: Provide a context. People are much more likely to support you when they understand that your goal is not to punish or manipulate them, but to reach goals you deeply value.
Assertiveness Training Tip #4: Forget fruitlessly attempting to control others' responses. Making assertive time choices calmly and compassionately and accepting others' right to their feelings is the key to staying in charge of your time.
Assertiveness Training Tip #5: Maintain your boundaries. The more important the boundary, the more patiently you need to maintain it. Expect to be actively reinforcing your new boundaries for some time to come. Each success builds on the ones before. Don't be concerned by the occasional slip-up. The overall track record is ultimately what matters the most.The longer you safeguard them, the less people will test your resolve.
You'll soon enjoy one of life's great discoveries: protecting your time actually feels like finding time.
What is your next step to develop successful time strategies?
Paula Eder, Ph.D., The Time Finder, has guided individuals and organizations to effectively align values with their time choices for 35+ years. For free weekly time tips & an award-winning monthly Ezine, visit http://www.findingtime.net/ezine.html
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